Traits of an Empath
An empath is a person who has a paranormal ability to sense and absorb the emotions and energies of the people and surroundings they encounter. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Sharon Saline, "Empaths have strong intuition and use it as their primary lens for processing the world around them. They are highly intuitive people who feel emotional and physical sensations on an extremely deep level, and intellectualizing those feelings is tough for them to do."
Signs of being an empath are: high sensitivity, generous hearts who may give too much to others, quick to respond to someone's needs. Because empaths naturally internalize other people's feelings, thoughts, and pain, empaths have a very difficult time distinguishing between other people's emotions and their own, which leads to extreme anxiety and emotional burden. Empaths can be easily overwhelmed in intimate relationships or in highly emotional situations. They need time alone, especially in nature, to recharge.
33 Signs That You Are an Empath
- You're perceived as being highly sensitive
- You have a strong sense of knowing (you can read people and situations)
- You find public places overwhelming
- Strangers easily unload their emotions on you
- You absorb the emotions of others even when they're not near
- You are highly curious and are drawn to spirituality and the metaphysical
- You are drawn to ancient cultures
- You are naturally curious about your history and ancestral lineage
- You have a nose for the truth
- You experience sudden physical pain, suffering, or illness
- You cannot tolerate worldly news, radio, T.V., newspapers, violence, or cruelty
- You commonly experience digestive disorders and back pain
- You have an addictive personality
- You are drawn to holistic, natural healing and all things metaphysical
- You are creative and inquisitive
- You need regular solitude
- You get bored and distracted easily
- You love nature and animals
- You love being in water
- You sense the energy of food
- You seek answers and knowledge
- You root for the underdog and the underprivileged
- You cannot tolerate clutter
- You cannot tolerate restrictive clothing or jewelry
- You love freedom, travel, adventure, and the road less traveled
- You are an old soul
- You cannot tolerate narcissism
- You can be perceived as moody, aloof, or disconnected
- You detest doing things you don't enjoy
- You instinctively feel time, days of the week/month, weather, or direction
- You dislike antique, vintage, or secondhand items
- You are great listeners
- You only have a few close friends
Summer has arrived full on! It feels as though the last 5 months have been a bit of a blur, yet somehow clear around the edges simultaneously. As life returns to a new stage of normal, it brings with it a new stage of reflection.
Here is what the time spent with the pandemic has, and continues to teach, or in many cases, remind me.
Nothing in life is stagnant. Everything is energy and energy is in constant movement and motion. This includes our thoughts, emotions, circumstances and global happenings. Change is also an energy. This was a big one for us on a global level. Micro changes are hard. Macro, global changes can sometimes be overwhelming. We often long for familiarity and comfort in knowing that things are the way they are and we are certain in that comfort. This change has knocked us clear out of our comfort zone like a baseball player hitting a home run. So what now? We adapt, shift change our thinking, heart math or we stay stuck in the discomfort.
We create our new normal and we create our new Joy. I have been finding deeper meaning in my day to day happenings. Small joys create big shifts. Being in my little urban garden..watching the birds splash in my fountain. I see them all in different ways. Like many people I also experience stressors of this new normal. And the things and connections in my life that have changed, ended or expanded. All, if not most things are transmuted in time...and right now, transmutation is at a peek. For some of you, this is challenging. For many of you, I see and feel you stepping into a new way of feeling, doing and experiencing life. I support you and see your Light!
During this new normal, Spirit has shifted my focus and my vibe. I have been very strongly guided to bring my ability to support and guide people going through their own transformation, to the forefront, and step more into coaching. The coaching will be specific to your spiritual journey of awakening. Your ability to vibe high and raise your own personal frequency. Tuning into and getting support and direction around those energetic markers that 'wake you' up. I have also been guided to do more study regarding the psychology of the Chakra system and it's role in your Spiritual development.
On my own personal journey of awakening, I have been doing some psychic development work, connecting more consciously with Angelic energy and shifting what feels more in alignment with my Soul work. As a result, I pass on the hustle of what I do, full on in faith that the people who see me, who need my services and guidance will find me. There are some things I will leave behind as I am narrowing my focus! Less is more. Keeping things simple and practical, even more enticing.
I will continue to teach Reiki as that is my passion but my teachings will look and feel different. As Light and Soul Workers there are aspects to the healing work we do that I find is sometimes not discussed or examined. My goal is to add to that in the best way I can.
So we surrender to the non stagnation. We adapt. We flow. We change our flow if needed. We have good days. We have challenging days. We are grateful. We are here. Continue to honour each day, each feeling, each moment where you are at. Each moment brings a new moment to change perspectives.
For all of my followers old and new, I love and appreciate your faith in me! It means so much always, but especially at this time.
Sending you health, healing and peace.
Blessings & Gratitude
Finding Stillness Amidst the Chaos
"When we are at our lowest point, we are open to the greatest change."
I, like many, have been reflecting on the teachings, the medicine, that comes with the events that are unfolding before us, to us and within us.
It’s realness hasn’t peaked for many as we methodically try to navigate through this new normal. It’s like waking up from a bad dream each morning only to remember that the dream is the reality.
It’s so important to honour where each of us is in this space of uncertainty. The emotions are high, impacting our day to day relationships, despite the distance from each other. Those who suffer from anxiety and loneliness, are stretched beyond imaginable pain. I want to honour their courage through this all. I want to honour each of our own struggles and emotions and grief. We have, indeed, lost, shifted and cancelled our plans. We have...stopped moving and doing.
We are in the Beingness of life.
There are some deep teachings in this.
There are some deep gratitudes in this.
I have my own suffering in this. But, I have to share that I have had some deep moments of grace, understanding how the spiritual aspects and energy line up in all of this.
We, as human, as spiritual beings have all done the insurmountable. We have in unison...just stopped. We are joined together in the energetic ribbon of just Being. Holding space around the world with and for each other. Regardless of religion...regardless of colour..regardless of politics...regardless of age, sex, economic status...we are joined as ONE in our stillness. This mass awakening is something that has been amping up and arriving in this Aquarian Age. We can do this. We can breathe together, rise together.
And in our stillness, the lungs of Mother Earth are moving and breathing new life into us, this planet. Her Chakra system is aligning in the most beautiful way, healing Herself and healing us through her healing. As an earth empath, I regularly stand on the earth and listen to her voice. I tune into what she feels and wants us to know. I feel her frequency shifting.
We hibernate not by choice, but to help heal each other and to help heal Her.
In a time of a disease that impacts the lungs...mother earth’s lungs are breathing more rapidly. Let her lungs breathe for you and sustain you.
What I have learned during this time, for myself, is that connection is more powerful than anything else. But connection to our own soul, is undeniably precious. Forced into social isolation, we can choose to use this time wisely to examine what stopping and being mean to us.
Create. Read. Journal. Produce something. Breathe. Walk. Mindfully dive into your very existence. Slow down. Be wild. Embrace your inner hippie. Stretch. Dance. Cry. Scream. Let it be hard. Then let it be lighter. Don’t beat yourself up. Give yourself daily hugs. Be human.
Remember that Spring will still spring. The birds will still sing and the buds germinate below the frozen ground...
I wouldn’t choose this manner of isolation for my life either. But slowing to a deeper meditative pace so I can examine my life and soul? This is a gift that will rarely come again in my life time.
And when this is over…. Wow, celebrate the hell out of how wonderfully you navigated through this! Take a look in your soul and note how very different you feel, act, appreciate the Life of Beingness.
Stay well. Stay real. Stay connected first and foremost, to Self & Soul. Stay bountiful, blissful and beautiful.
Welcome cozy souls, to the season of winter. A time to slow our roll and rhythm, to rest, repose and go within for a season of contemplation. So pour yourself a hot chocolate or a cup of your favorite herbal tea and meet me in that space.
Several years ago I was introduced to the Danish concept of Hygge
hyg·ge/ˈh(y)o͞oɡə,ˈho͝oɡə/ - a quality of coziness and comfort
Hygge lifestyle encompasses a feeling of cozy contentment and well being through enjoying the simple things in life. Hygge lifestyle is about keeping things simple and creating a calming mindset. How can we apply this concept to our inner spiritual life? Creating a simply mindful way of being, is a step in the right direction of soul soothing comfort. The concept of Hygge and the search for spiritual enlightenment are both fueled by a shared need for comfort and connection. In this season of comfort and joy, I reflect on what it means to be simply spiritual. Hygge spirituality.
Regardless of whether you pray, meditate, chant or commune with a higher power in a church, park or home, what gives you comfort, has merit. What you believe and practice, has merit. So many get caught up in how spiritual they are in comparison to others or what society deems to be spiritual. We get lost in the merit of what we ourselves believe or practice. We forget what true connections are to us. What Spirit means to us.
Throughout my life, in my own spiritual growth, I have always felt that my sense of spirituality lives deeply in my soul and is...very organic and simple. I light a candle and feel a connection to God, Source, Spirit and the Universe. I feel my feet grounded and feel that connection. I sit in meditation or in a Reiki session and I feel Spirit. I sit in church and feel equally connected. All experiences have beautiful merit.
You are a soul. You have a soul. You, your beliefs and practices are seen, celebrated and revered.
This Christmas season, I support you in connecting to the All you believe in and connect with, in whichever way, however simply you connect. I have no doubt you are seen and heard.
Wishing you a sacred Christmas Season!
Welcome the emergence of Fall and all it's beauty! Shifting, learning, growing and emerging. It's taken some time for me to write this newsletter. Things of a profound nature require a tenderness in their rendering..
In the early summer months, I have held a focus of supporting a very dear friend through the ravages of cancer. Someone with whom I have had a very close emotional connection. My friend, my mentor, my soul sister, Cathy. She transitioned the beginning of July, but before doing so, gave me permission to share her experience. An experience I am still processing. My heart was, and still is filled with awe, at how connection to each other, to energy, to whatever divinity you connect with...can feel like swimming in pure love.
That's how I felt in my experience with her.
In the past few months of her illness, she allowed me to step into her energy field with the love and grace of Reiki healing. Cathy had known about energy healing for as many years as I was practicing. She was neither a believer or a skeptic. When asked to support her in her illness, which she walked with immense dignity, I was beyond honored.
Healing is amplified when hearts connect, are open and pure. Our hearts connected in a place that has felt true for many years. I continue to feel her energy in the palms of my hands and in my heart. Through intent and prayer, I open up my channels to receive that Universal divine energy that flows through my crown, to my heart chakra and out through my palms to the recipient. An openness and willingness to receive allows the strength of that flow to fill you, transporting you to a place of peace. Some say, to your spirit essence.
In my sessions with my dear friend, I saw her whole and healed running through a sunflower field. At the end of the field, she was greeted by her ancestors that have passed through the years. They gathered around her and greeted her. She was strong in body, mind and spirit.
Whenever I saw this vision, I shared with her and she would say to me that when she was in the energy, her body felt stronger than she ever had even when she was well. Everytime I was with her, she wanted to experience that. What an immense gift to share for both of us.
We talked for hours about what it felt like to know she would die. I have no regrets she said, only love. Words that still echo in my ears.
In the days following her transition and at her Celebration of Life, I stopped at the store and brought a single sunflower with me. I wasn't entirely sure of the significance, but it had to come with me.
That same week, I was sitting outside eating my dinner on my back steps with my son. I looked up and directly in front of me was a flower that had never been there. A sunflower. A single sunflower amongst my yellow daisies. A single sunflower looking into my window.
In all my years playing in my garden I have neither seen or planted a sunflower...
The sign is clear for me and it's medicine magical. Sunflowers I have come to understand, reach for the light naturally but when there is darkness, they reach for each other's energy.
She was a sunflower, with energy she shared soulfully and unselfishly. We hesitate to reach for others and to share our love, compassion and energy with others out of fear. Out of I don't know what. Commitment? Fear? Uncertainty? Resentment? Jealousy?
Sunflowers don't care about those things...they just reach and in the moment, love.
Everything about my experience with this chapter of my life has been profound and held a deeper meaning for me...as always.
The beauty in death has shown itself to me in a way I never imagined...don't be afraid. Connection continues....
With love & gratitude
Christmas, and the season leading up to it, can be as daunting as it is beautiful for some. There is something that almost changes the air we breathe around Christmas. A feeling in our bones. The closeness and connection we feel with Spirit, God or the Universe. The music, the snow. And the list goes on. It can be a magical time of year.
Then there is the flip side of the coin. And all of the feelings are neither right or wrong.
The stress associated with spending and expectations around what should be can cause even the merriest people to feel blue. Christmas can bring up emotional stuff still lingering around. Why is that? Visions of sugar plums, glitter all things beautiful, perfect families gathering to carve the turkey. All of those images of loveliness can conjure up expectations of what should be, what might be, what wasn't and what we long for. The grief. The loss. The hopes, dreams and wishes. All seem to converge as though a point of light through a magnify glass.
The following are some tips to consider when navigating through the season. Things to practice to help bring some zen and mindfulness to your experience no matter what side of the coin you experience. Some of them are from articles I have read but also from my own experience and wisdom.
Manage your expectations. Keep in mind that everyone is going through their own emotions and experience of Christmas. This time of year represents something different to everyone. Hold a realistic view that things may not be 'perfect' or people may not be, say or do the things you wish they would. Try not to take things personally. Create space for others to have their experience and step away when things become overwhelming. Step away, take a deep breath and remind yourself that you are only responsible for your own feelings. We are all perfectly imperfect. Dynamics with family and friends don't necessarily change because its Christmas so manage your expectations around that so you don't feel hurt.
Take moments of mindfulness. Admist the busyness of the season, practice the mindful pause. Take conscious moments of mindful stopping and being without judgement. I will often just stop in the middle of something and bring my awareness to the present moment, in my body and with my breath. These moments can happen when you are cooking Christmas dinner for example. Stop, close your eyes and tune into your breath and body. Mindfully pay attention.
Set boundaries and say no. The holiday season is a good time to practice boundary setting. There may be pressure to do and plan different things for friends or family. Be cognizant of your own energy and your need to be in silence. You are not missing out...you are going within.
Connect with nature. Nature is a beautiful healer. It is grounding and revitalizing. Carve out some time to go walking in the forest or even around the block. Make a walk a part of your Christmas day routine. Go walk around the block and take in the Christmas lights. Go into the forest for a snowshoe. If you are an "earther" take the plunge outside for a few minutes in your barefeet! Your nervous system will thank you.
Manage your depression and anxiety. Christmas season can ampllify feelings of anxiety or depression. Its very important to establish a self care routine during this time if you find an increase in those feelings. Think ahead of how you will manage things and make a plan. Take time out away from people if you need to. It is ok to put yourself first if you need to. Plan to take regular breaks from activity to look after yourself. Read a book. Journal. Take a hot bath. Go to Starbucks and sip a decatant hot chocolate.
Don't over spend. Be mindful of the commercialism at Christmas and decide to work within your budget. Say no to gift giving if it means it is creating debt and stress for you. There are other creative ways to share. Bake some cookies. Plan some time with a family member or friend. Cook someone dinner.
Be with people who adore you for who you are. The season can amplify emotions. Choose to be with people who give you energy and not drain it. Be with people who are easy to be with and celebrate the things that are important.
8. Practice Gratitudes. the practice of gratitude shifts the energy and focus. It brings you to the present moment of what is important. Purchase yourself a lovely journal and start a daily gratitude journal practice or decorate a jar to place gratitudes in. Keep it simple. Sometimes our breath is enough to be grateful for.
Wishing you wellness of mind, body and spirit during the holidays and always. Be kind to yourself. Forgive yourself for whatever you hang onto going into the new year.
With much love and gratitude for your continued support!
Hanging in the stairwell going down into my healing room is an abstract painting. Somewhere on the painting are tiny letters that read, "Love, the reason we are here." I remember when I wrote those words, I had felt romantic love. Many years later, those words have deeper meaning and yearning. Everyday is a day to honour and exhibit love, but February is a highlighter.
The older I get the wider my definition of love becomes. The capacity of my heart to love has shifted. It spills out into everything I do. What does love look like?
It looks like unabashed joy when I am out in nature breathing the air and feeling the snow fall gently on my face. It looks like connection when a likemined soul crosses your path in a serendipitous way. Its in the gentle hug and touch of an arm of someone you care about. Or the silent embrace of your child. It lives in the moments you share with your aging parents. It looks like connection and communion with Spirit. With whomever you worship.
It resembles discreet acts of kindness to life changing acts of heroism. It is the in the air we breath and the water we drink. It's how we choose to move through our day when we are gripped with lonliness and depression. It lives in the way we soothe our mind, body and soul. A great cup of coffee with delectable cream! Its the many faces of love.
We all want to love and be loved. We all want to love and accept ourselves. We sometimes fall into the belief system that love needs to be larger than life...a bright flame that cannot be extinguished. I believe we have been placed here to love. To love ourselves, each other and the very nature of our lives.
In the next few months I will be writing about self care and how to redefine it. Lets set ourselves up for success. Now go and breathe in the deliciousness of at least one moment in your day! Love lives there.
The only constant in life...is change. It never disapoints and always shows up. Sometimes when we least expect it. Sometimes we most welcome it.
I used to cringe at the thought of change. Change was synonmous to fear with a capital F. Change and challenge meant I didn't have control over aspects of my life I needed to in order to feel safe, soft and familiar. Turns out it is all an illusion. I actually don't have control.
That concept took me a long time on my spiritual path to comprehend and to embrace. This past year has been thick with change....in my employment, some of my friendships and relationships, my heart, feelings. None of which were welcome, but all which did occur. So how DO we move from into the unknown, embracing it without being pulled under?
Simple. We stop fighting it.
And in the stopping of fighting it, you allow yourself to sink into the feeling and muck of it for a short time and allowing it space to heal. Following a recent sojourn to Ireland, while experiencing the power of the big water and rough landscape, something in it made me think of changes. Transitions. As the water beats against the shore, it constantly shifts the look of the landscape and shore. Its mighty and fierce but still beautiful. Then when it subsides, we realize that nothing really has changed. The landscape is still there. And it is still beautiful.
We are still there. We don't get as lost as we feel we do. That is an illusion. We have the strength to move through challenges and changes. We have the courage to open the door, leave what is familiar and begin a new journey. Whether an actual journey or a metaphorical journey.
I share my humaness in this struggle as i realize that being a spiritual being is also awareness that not everything is simple, easy or smooth. We learn. We grow, as we allow the waters of change, challenge and transition to crash against our shores.
With love & light,
I have been deeply pondering lately, what it IS to be a woman. All parts of it.
My relationships with women. What is like to be a woman in the context of today’s world. In the context of our own families, our mothers, sisters and daughters. Seems like a fitting them for the month of May when we celebrate Beltane and Mother’s Day.
I haven not always celebrated being a woman. Challenges have at times felt insurmountable. It has only been in the past decade where pieces of who I really am have seeped through my consciousness and spoke to me in brand new ways. You begin to see yourself in a different light.
I have been fortunately blessed with a rich circle of true, deeply authentic women in my life. Women who have celebrated my joy as much as talked me down from my sadness. Women who know my soul love despite not seeing me often. They feel it and know it as I know theirs. I have equally been blessed to have a wonderful mother. I appreciate that not everyone has a close relationship with their mother and that mother-child wound can run deep. I treasure that connection as I would a gift, honouring the woman who carried me for 9 months, gave birth to me and held me. And when my mother is gone, I can ask the question “Was I loved”? And I can without hesitation say, yes, I was. And that is enough for me.
The joy of being a parent is at its heart, the purest form of love I have ever experienced. I remember the sacred ecstacy of giving birth to my son, despite the challenging circumstances in my life, and feeling that if my higher power, God, the Universe decided that this was my time to leave, I was at peace. I was at peace because I felt, drank in a closeness, a love far deeper than any defined words for it.
For those of you who have a mother you love, celebrate that closeness.
For those of you who don’t, wrap your sisters, your close friends and matriarchs around you and celebrate that.
For those of you who ARE mothers. Celebrate the incredible miracle you created and how the beautiful pieces of you will go on in their Spirit.
And for those who desire a longing to be a mother, remember that you are loved and never alone in the Universe.
Much love xo